Bookish Recommendation: Prude by Carol Platt Liebau

I've been wanting to read this book for quite a while, and I finally got to it. I also ended up highlighting quite a bit of it as well.

There's a lot of different opinions surrounding this. Some people agree with what is said in the book, other people not so much. My brief opinion (elaborating on it below)? Yes, it's the 21st Century - but where did values, standards and morals go?

I would be considered a millennial - I turned 30 last year (2018). Though there is one thing that I can say for myself: I choose to have morals, values and standards. Some people might reckon that this is a bit strange considering the generation I come from. I wasn't actively taught anything that I stand by and for today - but I still have them and choose to have them.

In the generations before me there were things that were frowned upon, though I'm not sure if it was ever explained why those things were frowned upon. I'm of the opinion that values, standards and morals are something that's important to have and that they have value among society. Whatever values, morals and standards you have - know why you have them and why you stand for and by them.

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Over the last year or so, I've been able to reflect on some things that I had come to believe and stand for from my younger days. There are some I've been able to tweak and improve on; others I've discarded because they didn't serve me anymore or were holding me back from becoming a better person. I've even been able to add some new ones. To me, having those values, morals and standards represent a form of self-esteem and self-respect.

Are you someone who believes in having values, morals and standards? Do you find value in those sort of things? Do you find the things some of the older generations believe in to be valuable, or something to be tossed out?

I've come to see a lot of value in some of the things the older generations believed in. Things like 'no sex before marriage' (roll your eyes if you want), developing a good but on the conservative side dress sense, being able to have conversations with people (face to face), learning to be organised, having a healthy sense of ambition, being self-aware, developing my own self-esteem, develop good relationships with people, etc.

What I took away from the book 'Prude', is that it is OK to have values, morals and standards - despite what people today may tell or dictate to you. Yes, you have a lot of freedom available to you today - you're able to make a lot of choices; but be sure to look very carefully over the sort of things you want to choose - choose things that are going to have LONG TERM VALUE; not short term validation or gratification. Consider the sort of reputation you want to have in a few years time - yes, actually consider that. Most people would like to have a good reputation - choose things that ensure that.

Even if you think you might end up disagreeing with a lot of what this book talks about, pick it up anyways and give it a go. Let me know in the comments or on social media what you think about anything that I've spoken about above, or if you've read the book - what you thought of it.



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